The Fruit of Integrity


Last week I was struggling with taking time off in order to celebrate our 30th anniversary with family when I was behind on a key deadline for a client– and I asked you to hold me accountable to live the values I espouse – faith, family and then career.  Friday morning we picked up our daughter from the airport, went to the grocery store and then and headed to Tim’s Ford Lake for a 3 day weekend.  I purposely didn’t take my laptop.  While a few phone calls came in on Friday, we were able to get away and spend precious time together as others joined us.  As Friday progressed, I could feel myself decompress, relax and start to reconnect.  I had put my family before my career.

The fruit was evident on Sunday morning as the kids talked about having created memories to treasure, as we laughed, prayed, hugged, and loved.  And while Monday and Tuesday were long catch up days, I am at peace with the choice to do what I said I would do.  It was right and it was sweet fruit.  I pray it will be a memory that builds a foundation for continuing to live by faith, family, and career  – in that order.

Torn between Work & Family


It’s 9:00 pm on Wednesday evening and I’m caught in a dilemma.  I have spent the last several days conducting interviews in the morning and writing  on a project for a client in the afternoons.  I’m on target with the search, behind my timeline for the writing.  Tomorrow is another day with morning interviews, phone calls with clients in the afternoon, and a couple of hours for writing.  Friday, Saturday, and Sunday are set aside to celebrate our 30th anniversary with family at a lake cabin.

 I’m torn and I can feel the pressure building. I have to take a deep breath, relax, and refocus.    I need Friday and part of Saturday to write and catch up – but my core values are faith, family, and then career in that order.  So this is where the rubber hits the road.  I am praying and asking  God for grace and wisdom – and self-control so that I won’t work over the weekend.  I am excited about spending time with the kids and other family members and don’t want to work and spoil this time.  I also don’t want to be worrying about my workload.

 So it’s going to be nose to the grindstone tomorrow, and then family first on the weekend.   As tough as it feels right now, I know it’s the right thing to do.  I WILL feel better because I will act with integrity.   Hold me accountable and  I’ll give you a progress update next week.  When have you chosen family over work?

An update on my used car buying saga

 So last week I told you about 3 out of 4 sales people who either lied or obscured the truth.  This weekend I went to a dealership with a great reputation in town and my expectations were high.  Too high, unfortunately.

 The salesman came out to greet us and asked if he could get someone to help us.  Strange question, it seemed, since I didn’t know why he couldn’t do so.  We explained we wanted to see two specific models and discuss the pros of each one.  Instead of being cooperative, getting keys to show us those models, he responded this way:

We sell over 800 cars a month – come back when you are ready to actually buy.” 

 I explained that we wanted to look at our options in models now, and then come back to negotiate on an actual car when we were closer to the purchase.  He obviously had no interest in working with us and “shooed” us on.  That doesn’t make sense.  When we are ready to make the actual purchase, he won’t be getting our business.   If he’d treated us with integrity and respect, we would have been back in a few weeks and he would have had a sale.  Guess he’s not that hungry for a sale.

 Any recommendations on great sales people? 

All I want to do is buy a quality used car…

 I went used car shopping last week, visiting 4 dealers.  After doing some research in Consumer Reports on reliable cars, I test drove some of those mentioned in their April issue to narrow the field.  All I wanted was to have an honest discussion and talk about pros and cons of the cars.

 Three of four salesman either lied or failed to disclose needed informationSalesman 1 encouraged me to drive another car, telling me it was listed as a ‘best buy’ in Consumer Reports.  Turns out it was actually not recommended.  So I scratched that dealership off my list.  Salesman 2 gave me a  story about a little old couple who owned the car before me and how great a deal it was – but I found out it he was asking $4000 over the Kelly Blue Book price.  He proceeded to bash every other car make I was planning to look at.  Scratch off dealer number 2.  Salesman 3 extolled the virtues of his make, telling me how it was top rated for years, reliable – and then proceeded to push the only model in their line that was not recommended by CR. Scratch dealership 3. Salesman 4 got it right.  He shared the pros and cons, had copies of car fax reports, and a copy of the April issue of Consumer Reports.

 When a salesman isn’t straight with me, it effects my perceptions of the dealership.  So I’ll continue to look and consider my options – but Salesman 4 and the Darrell Waltrip dealership will definitely be seeing me again.  He had integrity.

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