Last year I was in Dallas, TX at a Christian speaking event. The speaker made his points, but throughout the speech, he used his wife as the brunt of jokes in order to add humor to his speech. A couple of days after the speech, he called me, asking for feedback. I honestly told him that for a Christ follower speaking at a Christian event I had been disappointed that he had failed to honor and cherish his wife. He was taken aback and asked for examples, which I gave him. He called me back two days later and promised to never use his wife that way again. I hope he had the integrity to do what he said he would do.
While I don’t like anyone using their spouse as a source of humor, I have a higher standard for Christ followers. In Ephesians, Paul challenged men to love their wives as Christ loves the church. So I find it sad to hear jokes made about marriage that taint the beauty of it. When we do that, we aren’t practicing what we preach. That’s one of the reasons we are called hypocrites.
The unique fact about Jesus is that without any exception he practiced what He preached. He served others, he healed, he encouraged – and he held people accountable for their actions that came from pride and arrogance. He even called some hypocrites! He challenged us to serve – “the first will be last and the last will be first”. Servant leadership is practicing what we preach – and it starts at home.
How are you loving and honoring your spouse today?