Honor & Respect vs. You Suck

My husband and I stopped at a restaurant on the way to Indiana last week.  While we were eating, we saw a man sitting at a nearby table wearing a black T-shirt with huge yellow letters declaring to the world “YOU SUCK”.   It seemed to be a statement on how many people view others these days.  Instead of respecting and honoring one another, we get in their face and disrespect them.

Respect is showing regard for the worth of someone regardless of race, ethnicity, gender, faith or sexual orientation.  Respect doesn’t diminish a person for any reason.  The best description of respect that I’ve ever heard came from Dave Buehring, founder and CEO of Lionshare Leadership.  He says there are three reasons we honor and respect one another.

1) Honor and respect due to performance – we earn this and recognize what a person has done or achieved.

2) Honor due to character and integrity – this is also earned and recognizes who the person is in character and that can be trusted to do what they say they will do

3) Honor and respect due to a person’s intrinsic value and worth.  This respect is given and not earned.  It recognizes each human being’s worth in the sight of God.  Because we are made in His image, and have had the priceless blood of Jesus shed for them, they are worth of honor and respect.*

What a different viewpoint from “You Suck”.   The truth is all people matter, no matter what.  What a different place our world would be if we practiced respect and honor.  Who lives this better than anyone you know – who shows honor, courtesy, respect to everyone in their life?

*Information in italics was adapted from the writings of Dave Buehring

“I Think I’m The Best” – Joe Flacco

Joe Flacco once again landed in the news when on Monday evening he told WNST (a Baltimore radio station) that he thought he was the best quarterback in the league.   Read the Baltimore Sun article   The LA Times put up a poll, and as of Wednesday afternoon, 87% said he wasn’t the best. (LA Times Poll)   The reaction was swift and furious in social media, with tweets mocking his statement.   Inherent in his comments are three lessons for anyone who is in pursuit of being an Integrity Fanatic.

(1) Manage your ego – To do what Joe Flacco does, he needs a healthy ego.  In fact, we all do.  But when our perception of our skills and ability is out of bounds, we need to dial it back.  A survey a few years found that 90% of pastors, students, teachers, and sports players thought they were above average.  That’s statistically impossible.  Look in the mirror, face the reality of who you are – good and bad – and then be real about it.

(2) Manage your words –  The publicity on this won’t hurt Flacco.  But when we make a public statement, we need to be aware of how those words will be interpreted.  From Mitt Romney’s two cadillacs (Mitt Romney comment) to BP’s Board Chair’s comment on the small people (“We care about small people”), gaffs in the media aren’t new – but they can be prevented.

(3) Manage your actions –   If you say you’re the best, your actions need to match your words.  That was the gist of many tweets – with critics bringing forth data to bolster their case that his ego was out of control.

Integrity is about being whole – matching your words with your actions – and building trust in the process.   Maybe if Eli Manning or Tom Brady had made that claim, we’d be having a different conversation.